We want your connections on or off Feeld to be thrilling, tender, playful, transformative—and we want them to be safe, too. Whether you're meeting up casually, exploring kink, deepening intimacy, or navigating open dynamics, your health and wellbeing matter.
Everyone comes to Feeld with different experiences, identities, and needs. That’s why we believe in leading with care—for yourself, your partners, and the wider community. This includes honest conversations, mutual respect, and safe sex practices that work for you.
Here are some things to keep in mind to help you explore freely, while staying grounded in communication, consent, and care for all bodies and boundaries.
Start with open, honest communication
Intimacy isn't just physical touch; it begins in conversation. Before becoming sexually intimate, talk with your partner(s) about sexual health, preferences, boundaries, and expectations. This might feel vulnerable at first, but it builds trust and sets the tone for consensual, affirming experiences.
Things you might want to cover:
- When you were last tested for STIs, and what tests were included
- What kinds of protection you use, prefer, or require
- Any agreements with other partners (especially in open or poly dynamics)
- Boundaries, support needs, or aftercare that feels good for you
These conversations can be kind, sexy, and connective—not just practical.
Practice safer sex
Safer sex looks different for different people, and that's exactly how it should be.
No matter your body, identity, or desires, using protection and practicing safer sex helps reduce the risk of STIs and supports mutual care.
You might use:
- External or internal condoms
- Dental dams or gloves
- Water- or silicone-based lubricant (oil-based lubricant can damage latex condemns and dental dams)
- PrEP (pre-exposure prophylaxis) or PEP (post-exposure prophylaxis)
- Open conversation about your STI status and comfort with different acts
There's no one-size-fits-all approach. What matters most is being open and nonjudgmental, and respecting your partner's preferences and boundaries just as much as your own.
Get tested regularly
Getting tested is all part of being a responsible and caring sexual partner. And it keeps your health in check, too.
How often you test may depend on your activity, practices, or anatomy—but generally:
- Every 3–6 months is a good rhythm for those with new or multiple partners
- A full panel may include tests for HIV, chlamydia, gonorrhea, syphilis, and hepatitis
- Be honest about your testing routine when connecting with others
Need help finding testing near you? Check with your local healthcare provider, sexual health clinic, or LGBTQ+ health center. In the US, gettested.cdc.gov can help you locate nearby services. In the UK, you can visit the NHS website to find testing in your area.
Wherever you are in the world, your local healthcare provider can offer personalized advice and support tailored to your body and needs.
If you’re living with an STI
STIs are more common than people think, and many are treatable or manageable with the right care. Living with an STI doesn’t mean you need to stop exploring intimacy, pleasure, or connection.
What it does mean is having open conversations with your partner(s) before being sexually intimate with them. This helps build trust, allows for informed consent, and supports safer, more respectful experiences for everyone involved.
Sharing your status early—before any physical activity—gives everyone a chance to make informed choices and usually leads to a more relaxed, honest conversation. For example, you could start by saying "I’m living with [name of STI], it’s currently [treated/managed/not active], and I’m happy to answer any questions you have.”
These talks can feel a bit vulnerable, but they’re an act of care for yourself and the people you connect with. And if someone reacts with judgment or stigma, that’s on them, not you.
Talk about boundaries early
Everyone has boundaries. These may relate to your body, gender, experiences, preferences, emotional comfort, or how you engage digitally.
Talk about boundaries before you meet, and definitely before anything sexual. That might mean:
- Naming the kinds of touch or intimacy you're open to (or not)
- Clarifying if you're okay with sexting, photo sharing, or video play
- Explaining what aftercare feels good, if needed
Liking each other's profiles or chatting doesn't equal consent. Consent must always be:
- Informed
- Ongoing
- Freely given
- Enthusiastic
Consent can always be changed or withdrawn at any time, and that should be respected without question.
Know your legal and ethical responsibilities
Intimacy requires care, and that includes understanding the responsibilities you hold toward others.
- Always respect the legal age of consent where you are
- Never engage in sexual activity without clear and informed consent
- In many regions, failing to disclose an STI status before sex may be illegal
If you're not sure what the laws are—especially when traveling or connecting internationally—consult a healthcare provider or local legal resource.
Trust your instincts
Your body knows. If something feels off, listen.
Whether someone is crossing a boundary, pressuring you to move faster than you're comfortable with, or ignoring your "no," your gut reaction is valid. You never need to justify stepping away.
You are allowed to pause. You are allowed to change your mind. You are allowed to protect your peace.
Report harm or unsafe behavior
If someone behaves inappropriately, disrespects your boundaries, or makes you feel unsafe—please report them through the app. To do this, navigate to their profile, scroll to the bottom, and tap “Block or Report.” Then select “Report this person,” choose a reason for reporting, provide details of the offense, and tap “Block and report.” Your report helps keep the Feeld community safer and more respectful for everyone.
If a crime or sexual assault has occurred, we encourage you to contact local authorities or a sexual violence support organization if you feel safe doing so. Feeld will cooperate with law enforcement when appropriate and can provide relevant data to support investigations.
Sexual health is self-care, and a form of mutual care.
No matter who you are, how you identify, or who you connect with, you deserve experiences grounded in communication, consent, and safety. Leaning into your curiosity and exploring who you are and what you like doesn't mean an absence of thoughtfulness and responsibility. We believe pleasure, freedom, and health are not at odds—they belong together.
Member Guidelines Summary
Sexual health and safety
Exploring connection and intimacy should feel exciting, respectful, and safe. That’s why we encourage everyone on Feeld to have open, honest conversations about sexual health, boundaries, and consent—before anything physical happens. Talk about things like STI testing, the protection you use or prefer, and any agreements with other partners.
There’s no single way to practice safer sex—what matters most is that it’s informed, consensual, and works for everyone involved. Regular testing, mutual respect, and ongoing communication are part of caring for yourself and your partners.
Consent should always be clear and enthusiastic and can be changed at any time. And if something doesn’t feel right, it’s okay to pause or walk away. You never need to explain prioritizing your comfort and safety.
If someone crosses a line or makes you feel unsafe, please report their profile in the Feeld app. Your actions help keep Feeld a respectful and supportive space for everyone.